Caring for Caregivers

A service offered by the Sufi Way

Many of us find ourselves in the position of having to care for someone in their time of need — perhaps taking care of our parents as they age and approach the end of their lives, or a partner, child, or friend who is suffering a chronic or life-threatening illness, or someone in grief, or depression, or who is trying to overcome addiction.  

If you have experienced this, or are doing so now, you know that this kind of intimate caring for someone is a form of spiritual practice. It takes skill, empathy, patience, sensitivity, and love.

And it is not always easy. Care giving is often stressful in ways that the caregiver is not aware, and it can confront us with emotions in ourselves that are difficult for us to face.  Since the caregiver is asked to sacrifice her other priorities to care for the person in need, she may not consider that she, too, might need some support.

A group of members of the Sufi Way have come together to offer this confidential service — Caring for Caregivers — to all who find themselves in a care giving role and who would appreciate some support. The supporters listed below are all people who work, or have worked, within a caring profession — psychotherapists, counselors, ministers, hospice workers — and they have had extra training to help them with this supportive role.

If you would like to take advantage of this offering, contact one of the people listed below for an initial conversation to see if there is a good fit between you, how often you might wish to be in contact, and by what medium — by telephone, Skype, or in person.

While there is no set fee for this service, for those who can afford it a contribution of about £20 per session ($30 or €25) to help the Sufi Way continue its work would be welcome. This donation can be made via the Sufi Way website (http://sufiway.org/donations). This amount is given as a guide. You are welcome to donate more, or less, or nothing at all if you are on a tight budget.

 

Celia

Celia Snow        This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it.             Bath, UK
I am a transpersonal psychotherapist with a Masters degree in spiritual crisis. I am interested in the relationship between psychological issues and the spiritual life. I welcome the opportunity to support those that are involved with caring for others.

 

John

John Witt        This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it.            Bristol, UK
I began my training in Humanistic Psychotherapy in 1979 and have been practicing as a psychotherapist since1983. I have been connected both personally and professionally with Spectrum (London) since 1981, and with the Sufi Way since 2010.  The primary approach I draw upon in my work is Formative Psychology, the methodology developed by Stanley Keleman, although I am familiar with many other approaches.

 

Trish

Trish Barton        This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it.            Bristol, UK
I have been practicing as a psychotherapist since 2000 and involved with Sufi Way since 2010. I feel that, as carers, we can all benefit from being deeply listened to. I live in Somerset with my partner and three cats.

 

Suzanne

Suzanne Inayat-Khan      This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it.       Huntingdon, UK
I have been deeply committed to the Sufi Way and involved with its teachings for all of my adult life. I am an Open Path graduate and a Local Circle leader in the UK.  I have been a caregiver for many years, and see the caring role as an opportunity to develop ways of being which sustain relationship within spiritual awareness. The challenges we encounter can be gateways for deepening our practice, and for influencing our life as a whole. I live in the UK with my husband and am training to become an ordained interfaith minister.

 

Simon

Simon Vivian        This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it.            Malvern, UK
I have been engaged with the Sufi Way since 1974. I studied first with Pir-o-Murshid Fazal Inayat-Khan and then Pir-o-Murshida Sitara Brutnell. After an active life in business, I am now a Massage Therapist and Bodyworker in Malvern, UK, where I lead an Open Path group with my wife Sunnara.

 

Marjolein

Marjolein Marbellis    This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it.      Amsterdam, Holland
I have been actively engaged with the Sufi Way for the past 12 years, although I’ve been connected with it since my childhood. One of my main interests is in “being with dying.” Even as a teenager I felt at ease with the process of dying — sensing that somehow everything will be all right, even though we haven’t the faintest idea what the experience will be like, or what is on the other side. I’ve been working in a hospice as a volunteer for four years. I’ve found that, although there is nothing to fear, in practice the way towards death can be bumpy and fear is a reality for all of us, whether we are the one expecting to die very soon or the one trying to give support.

 

Erica

Erica Witt        This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it.            Bristol, UK
I am a retired psychotherapist who now spends time in art and sculpture projects, particularly stone carving. I met Pir Vilayat Khan in 1974 and have spent the years since then studying many spiritual traditions. I feel I "come home" with the Sufi Way community and the nondual teachings of Elias.

 

JudyJudy Ryde         This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it.         Bath, UK
I am a practicing psychotherapist, supervisor, and trainer, and focalize the Caring for Caregivers initiative in the Sufi Way. I co-direct the Sufi Centre at Barrow Castle in Bath, England.

 

 

ElizabethElizabeth Birtles       +44 1407721141        Anglesey, North Wales
Over the years I have been well supported as a care-giver in various settings, and as a care-receiver. Training in Psychodynamic Counseling, seventeen years' experience working full time as a Unitarian minister, and a passion for Sufi mystic poetry led me to the Open Path training.